I remember growing up with a stay at home mother who always had the house tidy, cooked meals regularly, volunteered at our school and chauffeured us from activity to activity. As I moved into my teenage years we had some huge events happen in my family that really shifted our dynamics. I navigated through my teenage years without a lot of guidance from my parents or interaction with what was happening in my day to day life. I know others perceptions may be slightly different and I respect that. Those moments, hours, days, weeks, months and years have impacted who I am today. They live within us. I have come to live with the fact that we all have our own opinions and thoughts and it is how we view our different experiences that shape us in to who we are today.
As a mother to 3 young children I find I am constantly pausing throughout my days to wonder how my actions, words, thoughts and interaction with my children will affect them and become a part of their life. Impact who they are as human beings. It is our own experiences that shape and mold us, imprinting themselves deep into our soul. But what I have learned over the years is we always have a choice. We always have a choice as to what our next step will be and in what direction we will take that step. We always have a choice of our words, actions and thoughts.
As a mother I am continually observing my children, getting to know each of them as they are completely different in their needs as individuals. I want to show up for my children in a way that has a positive impact on their whole selves. There is so much imprinting on their souls that come from myself and my husband, from their experiences in the womb, their births, and the moments they spend earth side.
Motherhood is the most challenging but most rewarding thing I have ever done in my life. There are days when I yell more than I would like. When I don’t get down on the floor and play dolls, trucks, trains or cards because I just don’t like to do that. There are days when I feed them a smorgasbord of fruit, veggies, cheese and crackers for dinner again because I just don’t want to cook something they aren’t going to eat.
I could let the worry eat me up about what impression I am leaving on my children and how that will affect them as human beings and their relationships in the future. But what my yoga practice has taught me is that all I can do is to continue to breathe in, breathe out, and set positive intentions into the world with positive actions.
To all the mothers in the world continue to set your positive intentions and actions for your children and let’s continue to help each other become the best mothers we can possibly be.